Chapter 35 The Ultimate Application of Attraction (5)
These are the forces of attraction, and they work on millions of people every day.
Ideals and ambitions are also attractive, and they can be born out of the kinds of desires we discuss in the second part of this book, and if so, they can pull you can only make you pay attention to the material life, and carry you through the humdrum life to the if they are born of great and noble desires, they will pull you is not difficult to find high-level ideals and ambitions and companions with high you make friends or allies, don't look for self-defeating people, but for people who are motivated.
The spirit of initiative comes from the habit of looking forward and looking the surface, this looks like a bizarre it's actually as practical as the spirit of self-improvement we discussed in the previous 's go back to the workplace again and see what it can people choose their destiny by deciding whether or not to add attractive value to next cite two short experiences that came to our attention many years ago.
A young man is promoted to the position of employer gave him complete power to allow or deny credit to buyers and to cut prices that the country was on the verge of a widespread business panic, he did not stick to the old rules like other salesmen, but boldly implemented new kept a record of all businesses and persons who wished to have credit with his employer, and employed the services of a commercial credit bureau for a commission of £20 a year, excluding general statements and occasional young man asked them to give private reports against his employer's debtors, and asked for a monthly one, and paid them additionally if there were special needs.
As a result, he removed debtors on the brink of bankruptcy from credit lists, denied them further credit, collected receivables, and sealed their than a year later, a general economic panic hit the business of the country, and his employer had not lost a single shilling on bad young man took the initiative to investigate without anyone assigning him, and he didn't tell his employer what he was doing, but he was [-]% cautious from beginning to employer sailed through the crisis with ease only to discover that the salesman had been doing a lot of tedious work for a long the business returned to its former prosperity, he promptly promoted the clerk to his partner.
This is the spirit of initiative.
He was right to do it, but other salesmen wouldn' dared to set a precedent even though his employer did not think of it, nor ordered him to do so.
There is another example, which was brought to our attention many years ago, which reflects the same was in a certain city where the shoe industry was a big part of the goat and kid ranches competed to supply shoe factories with their are a lot of goods piled up in the auction house, where buyers from shoe factories choose the goods according to the varieties and quantities they order to meet the demanding requirements of buyers, goat skins and suede skins of various colors are piled there don't sell in bad years.
A young man has risen to the position of sales manager for one of these the great loss of thousands of hides piled up and broken due to unstable demand, he carried out the following steps without informing his employers:
He first visited all the shoe manufacturers and recorded the information he got in his notebook, including the approximate annual leather quantity, type, grade, processing technology and other important visit these places every month to keep in touch with , a large part of the tanneries he visited were regular customers of his competitors, and they were reluctant to discuss cooperation with view of their attitude, he introduced the grade, variety and processing technology of his products to these manufacturers, which all met the requirements of the shoe , they found it difficult to find such a suitable product elsewhere, so they all bought it happily.
As a result of this scheme, his employer, instead of maintaining large, useless inventories, specialized in the kinds of shoes the factories only that, but the company began to grow steadily and its profits became employer asked the salesman how he came up with this plan, which turned out to be a salesman replied: "Business was very slow at the time, and there was nothing to do for a lot of time every day. So, I was able to sneak out and visit the offices of the buyers. I had to choose between doing this or doing nothing. And What strikes me the most is that we have to prepare many grades of goods to suit the needs of the trade. I think if we figure out what they want, we can satisfy them very well. I succeeded."
A few years ago, we asked many businessmen a common question, that is: how many real ideas can they come up with in the process of doing admit that they have never considered such endeavors in the right when we asked them, they came up with at least 500 creative ways to increase their came up with one or two options, some more, and a few came up with as many as 50 different their brains start thinking in the right direction, huge improvements can be made immediately.
The fate and future of all employees are in their own hands, but initiative does not fall into this probably see this clearly, as do secret is all in getting your head straight and looking at the realities of the moment, and then going through them one by one to see if there is room for people possess the spirit of looking deeply into possible situations that others cannot Clay Frick grew up to be Carnegie's most valuable assistant through his penetrating insight into the possibilities of new things, as he grew up in a very poor family. analyze.
Forming the habit of seeking solutions for improvement is an excellent discipline, and it is valuable both in family life and in it starts, it affects every aspect of daily life and has profound is attractive because it leads us to , millions of people have lost this awareness in their lives today because they are if they are actuated by this spirit, they may soon establish vigorous new hopes.
We've discussed many business matters in this lesson, but the first principle of attraction holds equal power and value for all relationships in place where this kind of effort is most needed is the home, where there are so many little things, too much time for husband has little interest in the family, and the wife loses interest in family life with one or both spouses have the initiative to generate attraction and start to recognize the need to create a warm atmosphere, wonderful improvements can be made in every corner of the this time, you will find that the original home can also become a brand new world.
Lesson 56
Leaving room is always attractive
The study of human life is as endless as the activities of now come to a completely different set of practices, perhaps articulated in a few simple everything with a certain amount of leeway, never go to extremes, or keep a certain amount of the contrary, it is to show off all the energy reserved or a person does not leave room for anything, then he is destined to be unattractive.
There are countless such examples, and we present a few of them.
When you stand up from the dinner table, if you are very full, you will definitely feel weaker than when you are not very matter what physical work you do, if you use up the last of your strength, you will definitely feel inexperienced lawyer who puts all his energy into a courtroom speech quickly tires his once had the pleasure of studying the methods used by a prominent defense attorney to win his clients in client faced an almost insurmountable objection in court, an objection backed up by forces so powerful they seemed lawyer seemed to pull out all the stops in his final speech, but he clearly had he uses this part of the power, it seems to reach the limit again, but he can still exert new power this way, round after round, he reached the peak of attraction, overwhelmed all opponents, and finally he told us afterwards that he would never reach his limit because his strength kept growing.
Satisfaction of any kind is not only unattractive, but also destructive to the attraction already a person's life is full of ambition, then he will have the passion to fight for once his ideals are all realized, his passion is wealth earned through struggle is so pale and weak, and the comfortable and easy life is completely happiest thing is the process of pursuing a goal, not the result of achieving that goal.
Leaving room is always rule always applies during the courtship stage and after marriage, and it will be fulfilled in multiple is the greatest and most involved thing in the so-called marriage proposal is a man trying every means to get the woman he likes to agree to marry this stage is actually reached, as long as the man has not won the winning medal, he shows extremely high the other hand, there is also the general reality that when a woman chooses a man, he is above other ordinary men, but it will not always be as he knows will induce him to have this or that desire, and then play a leading role in he doesn't leave room in his drive to win, he'll lose his previous interest as soon as he realizes he's got his way.
There is an old philosophical saying, which warns women to keep a long enough distance from their suitors to avoid reaching the limit of each other's the relationship between the two reached its climax during the proposal stage before marriage, then they are likely to eventually part makes a man obsessed with a woman is his anxious state of mind, not his this principle, many women exhibit something similar to attractiveness that is not attractive, but attractiveness alone wins them good give themselves unreservedly to a man, but he soon tires of he had grown bored with her before marriage, he would have resolutely chosen to leave her who can really attract men will not let their affection reach the she allowed a man to approach her before marriage, she might lose everything.
The satisfaction that comes with the expression of love, whether before or after marriage, dampens or annihilates man holding his girlfriend's hand too much can cause her to ask verbally or in a low voice, "Will he be upset if he doesn't do this in the future?" If she doesn't say it, she must be doing it. many kisses and hugs can satisfy both of you enough to stop desiring each other so much, so it's best to leave it a little marriage, men will be sexually satisfied faster than women, which will destroy the attraction of works faster than any other influence in life, and the man instantly becomes unattractive, looks selfish, lazy, pushy, worn out, and looks like a different person than he that time, he had said that she was the loveliest woman in the world and that he could not live without once he was satisfied, he seemed to be impatient with everything, and his mind was full of "don't touch me, I hate seeing you".This kind of contentment is the fuse of almost all quarrels in married life, and it creates conditions for men's distorted felt that he could say whatever he wanted without scruple, that he could hurt his wife's feelings wantonly because she belonged to him, and that he could indulge his own nature, which was hidden under the halo of the proposal.
As long as the husband wants his wife by his side, the wife remains attractive to the could keep her attractive all his life, simply by learning not to let himself reach a breaking point of obvious fact is that sexual gratification completely removes attractiveness from a public speaker wants to conquer a large audience, but the above-mentioned situation happens on the eve of his speech, the result must be a dismal the same way, if a similar situation occurs in married life, the joy and strong love of husband and wife will no longer exist.
Desire is also attractive when there is a genuine exchange of unattractive people in the world always want to push to the limit when things go they like to dance, they will dance wildly until the dawn of the next women try to pursue a life of their own through their careers rather than trying to improve gave full play to her vitality and kept compressing the night's rest time. As a result, she yawned and was completely absent from work in the following couples spend their evenings playing cards so much that they don't stop until the last they do not know is that reasonable diversions are much better than such orgies.
Leaving room can make a person very attractive, because its charm can arouse a strong interest in example, a husband and wife are arguing over whether the total income should be controlled by the regular to the budget, it is necessary to keep the expenses lower than the income. Both of them know how much the family can earn at the end of each month, how much should be spent, and how much surplus there purpose of the budget was to create a surplus between income and expenditure, and he found that some purchases were unnecessary, and she felt the same is still room for such leeway in married life, and we take it for granted if the situation is before life would have had fewer misunderstandings and subsequent emotional discord if the husband and wife hadn't dug too closely into the family's financial situation.
A couple built a house they had planned a year before they got are six rooms in the house. There is a small garden in front of the house and a slightly larger garden in the year they plant something in the six neat and bright small rooms in the house are very her husband's business became more and more prosperous, the debts he owed when building the house became less and less, and they were all paid off , they have invested a considerable amount of money in bonds and went through a period of hard work and frugality in the early days of their marriage, during which the wife gave as much as the two were steadfast in keeping some savings, which made the later success a their daughters get married, they follow the same balance policy as their did not squander the money they earned easily, but kept a certain amount of savings for future happiness.
Such situations are not the deepening of attraction learning, more and more people implement this that have been influenced by our thinking about leaving things to chance seem strong and result of this is the stability of the family and the lasting happiness of each lovers tell the truth, as we have explained in previous lessons, countless mistakes that would otherwise make life unhappy are avoided, and what may and is bound to happen in the future is clear. up.
(End of this chapter)
These are the forces of attraction, and they work on millions of people every day.
Ideals and ambitions are also attractive, and they can be born out of the kinds of desires we discuss in the second part of this book, and if so, they can pull you can only make you pay attention to the material life, and carry you through the humdrum life to the if they are born of great and noble desires, they will pull you is not difficult to find high-level ideals and ambitions and companions with high you make friends or allies, don't look for self-defeating people, but for people who are motivated.
The spirit of initiative comes from the habit of looking forward and looking the surface, this looks like a bizarre it's actually as practical as the spirit of self-improvement we discussed in the previous 's go back to the workplace again and see what it can people choose their destiny by deciding whether or not to add attractive value to next cite two short experiences that came to our attention many years ago.
A young man is promoted to the position of employer gave him complete power to allow or deny credit to buyers and to cut prices that the country was on the verge of a widespread business panic, he did not stick to the old rules like other salesmen, but boldly implemented new kept a record of all businesses and persons who wished to have credit with his employer, and employed the services of a commercial credit bureau for a commission of £20 a year, excluding general statements and occasional young man asked them to give private reports against his employer's debtors, and asked for a monthly one, and paid them additionally if there were special needs.
As a result, he removed debtors on the brink of bankruptcy from credit lists, denied them further credit, collected receivables, and sealed their than a year later, a general economic panic hit the business of the country, and his employer had not lost a single shilling on bad young man took the initiative to investigate without anyone assigning him, and he didn't tell his employer what he was doing, but he was [-]% cautious from beginning to employer sailed through the crisis with ease only to discover that the salesman had been doing a lot of tedious work for a long the business returned to its former prosperity, he promptly promoted the clerk to his partner.
This is the spirit of initiative.
He was right to do it, but other salesmen wouldn' dared to set a precedent even though his employer did not think of it, nor ordered him to do so.
There is another example, which was brought to our attention many years ago, which reflects the same was in a certain city where the shoe industry was a big part of the goat and kid ranches competed to supply shoe factories with their are a lot of goods piled up in the auction house, where buyers from shoe factories choose the goods according to the varieties and quantities they order to meet the demanding requirements of buyers, goat skins and suede skins of various colors are piled there don't sell in bad years.
A young man has risen to the position of sales manager for one of these the great loss of thousands of hides piled up and broken due to unstable demand, he carried out the following steps without informing his employers:
He first visited all the shoe manufacturers and recorded the information he got in his notebook, including the approximate annual leather quantity, type, grade, processing technology and other important visit these places every month to keep in touch with , a large part of the tanneries he visited were regular customers of his competitors, and they were reluctant to discuss cooperation with view of their attitude, he introduced the grade, variety and processing technology of his products to these manufacturers, which all met the requirements of the shoe , they found it difficult to find such a suitable product elsewhere, so they all bought it happily.
As a result of this scheme, his employer, instead of maintaining large, useless inventories, specialized in the kinds of shoes the factories only that, but the company began to grow steadily and its profits became employer asked the salesman how he came up with this plan, which turned out to be a salesman replied: "Business was very slow at the time, and there was nothing to do for a lot of time every day. So, I was able to sneak out and visit the offices of the buyers. I had to choose between doing this or doing nothing. And What strikes me the most is that we have to prepare many grades of goods to suit the needs of the trade. I think if we figure out what they want, we can satisfy them very well. I succeeded."
A few years ago, we asked many businessmen a common question, that is: how many real ideas can they come up with in the process of doing admit that they have never considered such endeavors in the right when we asked them, they came up with at least 500 creative ways to increase their came up with one or two options, some more, and a few came up with as many as 50 different their brains start thinking in the right direction, huge improvements can be made immediately.
The fate and future of all employees are in their own hands, but initiative does not fall into this probably see this clearly, as do secret is all in getting your head straight and looking at the realities of the moment, and then going through them one by one to see if there is room for people possess the spirit of looking deeply into possible situations that others cannot Clay Frick grew up to be Carnegie's most valuable assistant through his penetrating insight into the possibilities of new things, as he grew up in a very poor family. analyze.
Forming the habit of seeking solutions for improvement is an excellent discipline, and it is valuable both in family life and in it starts, it affects every aspect of daily life and has profound is attractive because it leads us to , millions of people have lost this awareness in their lives today because they are if they are actuated by this spirit, they may soon establish vigorous new hopes.
We've discussed many business matters in this lesson, but the first principle of attraction holds equal power and value for all relationships in place where this kind of effort is most needed is the home, where there are so many little things, too much time for husband has little interest in the family, and the wife loses interest in family life with one or both spouses have the initiative to generate attraction and start to recognize the need to create a warm atmosphere, wonderful improvements can be made in every corner of the this time, you will find that the original home can also become a brand new world.
Lesson 56
Leaving room is always attractive
The study of human life is as endless as the activities of now come to a completely different set of practices, perhaps articulated in a few simple everything with a certain amount of leeway, never go to extremes, or keep a certain amount of the contrary, it is to show off all the energy reserved or a person does not leave room for anything, then he is destined to be unattractive.
There are countless such examples, and we present a few of them.
When you stand up from the dinner table, if you are very full, you will definitely feel weaker than when you are not very matter what physical work you do, if you use up the last of your strength, you will definitely feel inexperienced lawyer who puts all his energy into a courtroom speech quickly tires his once had the pleasure of studying the methods used by a prominent defense attorney to win his clients in client faced an almost insurmountable objection in court, an objection backed up by forces so powerful they seemed lawyer seemed to pull out all the stops in his final speech, but he clearly had he uses this part of the power, it seems to reach the limit again, but he can still exert new power this way, round after round, he reached the peak of attraction, overwhelmed all opponents, and finally he told us afterwards that he would never reach his limit because his strength kept growing.
Satisfaction of any kind is not only unattractive, but also destructive to the attraction already a person's life is full of ambition, then he will have the passion to fight for once his ideals are all realized, his passion is wealth earned through struggle is so pale and weak, and the comfortable and easy life is completely happiest thing is the process of pursuing a goal, not the result of achieving that goal.
Leaving room is always rule always applies during the courtship stage and after marriage, and it will be fulfilled in multiple is the greatest and most involved thing in the so-called marriage proposal is a man trying every means to get the woman he likes to agree to marry this stage is actually reached, as long as the man has not won the winning medal, he shows extremely high the other hand, there is also the general reality that when a woman chooses a man, he is above other ordinary men, but it will not always be as he knows will induce him to have this or that desire, and then play a leading role in he doesn't leave room in his drive to win, he'll lose his previous interest as soon as he realizes he's got his way.
There is an old philosophical saying, which warns women to keep a long enough distance from their suitors to avoid reaching the limit of each other's the relationship between the two reached its climax during the proposal stage before marriage, then they are likely to eventually part makes a man obsessed with a woman is his anxious state of mind, not his this principle, many women exhibit something similar to attractiveness that is not attractive, but attractiveness alone wins them good give themselves unreservedly to a man, but he soon tires of he had grown bored with her before marriage, he would have resolutely chosen to leave her who can really attract men will not let their affection reach the she allowed a man to approach her before marriage, she might lose everything.
The satisfaction that comes with the expression of love, whether before or after marriage, dampens or annihilates man holding his girlfriend's hand too much can cause her to ask verbally or in a low voice, "Will he be upset if he doesn't do this in the future?" If she doesn't say it, she must be doing it. many kisses and hugs can satisfy both of you enough to stop desiring each other so much, so it's best to leave it a little marriage, men will be sexually satisfied faster than women, which will destroy the attraction of works faster than any other influence in life, and the man instantly becomes unattractive, looks selfish, lazy, pushy, worn out, and looks like a different person than he that time, he had said that she was the loveliest woman in the world and that he could not live without once he was satisfied, he seemed to be impatient with everything, and his mind was full of "don't touch me, I hate seeing you".This kind of contentment is the fuse of almost all quarrels in married life, and it creates conditions for men's distorted felt that he could say whatever he wanted without scruple, that he could hurt his wife's feelings wantonly because she belonged to him, and that he could indulge his own nature, which was hidden under the halo of the proposal.
As long as the husband wants his wife by his side, the wife remains attractive to the could keep her attractive all his life, simply by learning not to let himself reach a breaking point of obvious fact is that sexual gratification completely removes attractiveness from a public speaker wants to conquer a large audience, but the above-mentioned situation happens on the eve of his speech, the result must be a dismal the same way, if a similar situation occurs in married life, the joy and strong love of husband and wife will no longer exist.
Desire is also attractive when there is a genuine exchange of unattractive people in the world always want to push to the limit when things go they like to dance, they will dance wildly until the dawn of the next women try to pursue a life of their own through their careers rather than trying to improve gave full play to her vitality and kept compressing the night's rest time. As a result, she yawned and was completely absent from work in the following couples spend their evenings playing cards so much that they don't stop until the last they do not know is that reasonable diversions are much better than such orgies.
Leaving room can make a person very attractive, because its charm can arouse a strong interest in example, a husband and wife are arguing over whether the total income should be controlled by the regular to the budget, it is necessary to keep the expenses lower than the income. Both of them know how much the family can earn at the end of each month, how much should be spent, and how much surplus there purpose of the budget was to create a surplus between income and expenditure, and he found that some purchases were unnecessary, and she felt the same is still room for such leeway in married life, and we take it for granted if the situation is before life would have had fewer misunderstandings and subsequent emotional discord if the husband and wife hadn't dug too closely into the family's financial situation.
A couple built a house they had planned a year before they got are six rooms in the house. There is a small garden in front of the house and a slightly larger garden in the year they plant something in the six neat and bright small rooms in the house are very her husband's business became more and more prosperous, the debts he owed when building the house became less and less, and they were all paid off , they have invested a considerable amount of money in bonds and went through a period of hard work and frugality in the early days of their marriage, during which the wife gave as much as the two were steadfast in keeping some savings, which made the later success a their daughters get married, they follow the same balance policy as their did not squander the money they earned easily, but kept a certain amount of savings for future happiness.
Such situations are not the deepening of attraction learning, more and more people implement this that have been influenced by our thinking about leaving things to chance seem strong and result of this is the stability of the family and the lasting happiness of each lovers tell the truth, as we have explained in previous lessons, countless mistakes that would otherwise make life unhappy are avoided, and what may and is bound to happen in the future is clear. up.
(End of this chapter)
